May 30, 2018

It’s time to take charge of your health

When you visit the doctor’s office there are so many things to dislike: exposure to #allthegerms, the expense, the waiting around… it’s such a hassle!

But here’s the other thing: Doctor’s offices can also make us feel really out of control, even though it’s our health being discussed.


Because here’s what I know… no one will ever care about your health or your family’s health as much as YOU do.


No one will be as powerful of an advocate as you will be for yourself (or for a loved one). No one else will be as motivated as you are to achieve long-term health and holistic wellness.


Which is why it’s imperative that you arm yourself with knowledge and resources that will equip you to be the most effective advocate possible.


And the next time illness or injury strikes, or you do get a diagnosis from the doctor, you’ll have the confidence to take an active role in your health, and be able to include tools like herbs, essential oils and other natural remedies in your staying-well arsenal.


That’s why I’m so excited to announce that the popular Herbs & Essential Oils Super Bundle is back for the 3rd year in a row: https://us154.isrefer.com/go/heosb2018/a13178/

It’s a complete library of natural remedies that you can trust and rely on as you take charge of your family’s health.

When you buy the Herbs & Essential Oil Super Bundle, you’ll get access to:

  • 22 eBooks,
  • 4 eCourses,
  • 6 printables,
  • and 2 membership sites

… all curated to give you an insanely helpful collection of carefully researched resources to equip you to take charge of your health, with remedies you choose – at a price that’s too good to miss.


Of course, we and our family members will still get sick. Having natural remedies at hand doesn’t guarantee perfect health or provide superhuman powers to ward off the many germs that make their way around.


But, with the help of traditional wisdom, modern science and smart natural remedies, you’ll be empowered to respond to the things that come your way, and protect and nurture your health far more effectively.


The bundle is just $29.97, but only for the next six days!


Go check out the Herbs & Essential Oils Super Bundle and see everything that’s included in it here: https://us154.isrefer.com/go/heosb2018/a13178/



P.S. And it gets even better! When you buy your bundle by tomorrow at midnight, you’ll also get a special bonus: a leather wrap diffuser bracelet from the Oil Collection (a $21.95 value) in addition to the leather diffuser earrings they're offering all week!

May 14, 2018

The Genius Bloggers Toolkit





You’ve got big plans and dreams for your blog.
And with good reason. I love blogging and feel so fortunate to do what I do, connecting with this community, sharing what I’m passionate about, and even earning an income.
But that doesn’t make blogging easy — in fact, sometimes it’s downright hard.
For all of your big dreams, maybe you’ve felt frustrated, confused, or stuck at times, trying to figure out how to grow your blog, get more traffic, overcome hurdles, find smart strategies, and earn more money.
 

Truthfully, one of the best ways I know to improve in blogging is to learn from other brilliant bloggers.
Don’t you wish you could just call up your favorite bloggers, ask them out for coffee, and soak up the wisdom as they share their most effective tips and tricks?
I’ll let you in on a little secret… it’s BYOC (bring your own coffee), but there’s a way to learn from some of the smartest bloggers on the web on ALL the topics that matter for every level of blogger, and all on your own schedule and without leaving your house.
Have you heard about the Genius Blogger’s Toolkit? Get ready to have your mind blown.
It’s a digital package crammed full of brilliant tools to help you grow your blog, work smarter & make more money.
The team at Ultimate Bundles has put together the best resources on ALL the topics that matter to bloggers, like mastering social media, monetization, creating and selling products, time management and productivity, growing an email list, and so much more.
It was so popular in October that they’re bringing back the Toolkit for just two days!
You’ll get 91 resources, like eBooks, eCourses, templates, and workbooks, so you’ll find everything you need to propel your blog to the next step and far beyond.
These resources include over $5,800 of blogging tips, strategies, tutorials and amazingly practical information and ideas. For real.
And that’s not even everything.
You can also get free bonus offers worth $487, with 6 tools and services to help you run your blog better.
But the truly amazing part? They’re selling it for a crazy 98% off of regular price!
I know, it sounds too good to be true, but I promise it’s not.
Ultimate Bundles has been around a long time and creating these packages is really their thing (they’ve sold over 220,000 of them over the years on all sorts of topics), so you can trust this is the real deal.
Even better, they’re all about making sure you LOVE the Genius Blogger’s Toolkit. There’s a full 30-day happiness guarantee, so there’s really no risk in trying it out.
The most important detail, though, is that this toolkit is available for just 2 days.
After 11:59pm Tuesday, May 15th, the sale ends and you’d have to buy all of these products individually.
I’d hate for you to miss out, so click HERE to learn more or buy the bundle.

The Genius Blogger's Toolkit Flash Sale

Beyond Blogging
  • Blogger to Author: How I Went from Hobby Blogger to Getting Two Book Deals With A Major Publisher by Erin Odom ($30.00)
  • Flipping Blogs for Profit by Jenn Leach($27.00)
  • Monetize Your Blog With Freelance Writing: Learn How to Make $2K/month Using Your Blog Writing Skills! by Sagan Morrow ($39.00)
  • Side Hustle Blueprint: How to Make an Extra $1000 per month Writing eBooks by Lise Cartwright ($17.00)
Blog-Life Balance
  • Sweetly Blended: The Ultimate Guilt-Free, 4-Step Recipe for Building a Wildly Profitable Business Without Missing out on Family Time, Burning Out or Watching Money Flow Down the Proverbial Drain! by Prerna Malik ($69.00)
  • The Bliss-Filled Mama’s 3 Month Biz Plan: Your Step by Step Process to Designing Your Most Blissful Biz Season Yet! by Kathy Stowell ($47.00)
  • Your Business Personality Assessment: Manage and Grow Your Business with Ease by Melissa Llado ($28.95)
Branding
  • Brand Intimate: The Essentials of Your Purposeful, Profitable Brand by Vanessa Ryan ($27.00)
  • Brand Yourself Like A Creative Hustler by Steven Picanza ($397.00)
  • The Blogger’s Guide to Rebranding by Cori George ($14.99)
Content Creation
  • 1200 Blog Post Ideas by Rachael Wynn ($7.80)
  • Creative Sparks for Business: 31 Business Ideas for Bloggers by Jennie Moraitis ($10.99)
  • Food Photography Tips & Tricks: The Ultimate Guide 2nd Edition by Christina Peters ($19.95)
  • hope*writers 3-month membership by hope*writers ($66.00)
  • Make Your Old Content New Again: Six Steps to Getting More Traffic, Money and Followers By Updating Your Existing Posts by Katy Widrick ($14.99)
  • Never Run Out of Blog Subjects Again by Max Kuivenhoven ($7.00)
  • The Effective Writer by Jeff Goins ($197.00)
  • Webinar Essentials: The No-Brainer Guide to Delivering Your First Webinar in 7 Days by Julie Harris & Razwana Wahid ($57.00)
Creating & Selling Products
  • Creating and Formatting e-Books: Convert Your Word File to Kindle by Susan K Stewart ($180.00)
  • Epic Instructor Lab: Unique Content to Help You Easily Create Your First Online Course by Kari Sayers ($37.00)
  • Launch It Right! Bundle: Plan Out and Execute your First Profitable Course or Digital Product Launch by Summer Tannhauser ($29.00)
  • Love Plus Color’s eBook InDesign Template by Jessica Safko ($32.00)
  • Sales Page Success by Chelsea Damon ($30.00)
  • Sign Up To Sold Course: 3 Proven Steps for Turning Strangers Into Customers by Caressa Thompson ($97.00)
  • Write, Publish & Market Your Kindle Book In 4 Weeks by Ling Wong ($97.00)
Email Marketing
  • ConvertKit Masterclass: The Exact Formula I Used to Grow My Email List to Over 14K in Under a Year by Monica Froese ($47.00)
  • Email Lists Made Easy for Writers and Bloggers by Kirsten Oliphant ($4.99)
  • How to Create Your First Opt-in Freebie by Angie Nelson ($29.00)
  • List Building Mania: Build Your List, Save Time and Grow Your Business in 7 Days by Lindsay Maloney ($87.00)
  • Problem to Promotion: A Training on Creating the Perfect Opt-in by Kristie McCollum ($39.00)
Getting Organized
  • Blog Content Creator Kit by Kaitlyn Kessler ($16.00)
  • Blogging Binder by Sarah Titus ($47.00)
  • Free Your Mind Blog Planner: Dream Bigger, Organize Your Tasks and Achieve Your Dream Life by Mom’s Small Victories ($17.00)
  • Printable Blog Planner by Gemma Bonham-Carter ($14.95)
Getting Started
  • BECOME by Dollie Freeman($99.00)
  • Blog by Number: Every Busy Mom’s Ultimate Guide to Starting a Blog by Suzi Whitford ($47.00)
  • Choosing Your Perfect Niche: The Key to Launching a Successful Blog by Abby Lawson ($10.00)
  • How to Master Google Analytics from the Beginning: A Beginner’s Guide to Customizing Google Analytics for Your Blog by Dawn Aldridge ($6.99)
  • My 14-Point Blog Startup Checklist by Bob Lotich ($19.00)
  • Profitable Blogging For Beginners: The 4 Week Online Class by Tanya Peterson ($97.00)
  • The Beginner’s Guide to Blogging: Everything You Need to Know to Start a Profitable Blog by Sarah Brooks ($12.00)
Increase Traffic
  • Blog Traffic Bootcamp by Lena Gott ($37.00)
  • Demystifying SEO: A Blogger’s Guide To Search Engine Traffic by Kim Six ($29.00)
  • Find Your Tribe Online: Find Your Readers, Grow Your Blog, and Have Fun Doing It! by Jen Snyder ($67.00)
  • Ready Set Blog for Traffic by Elna Cain ($45.00)
  • The She Approach To Boosting Your Blog Traffic by Ana Savuica ($25.00)
  • Traffic, Subscribers, Yours by Raelyn Tan ($197.00)
Legal & Financial
  • Blog and Be Legal: The Start to Finish Guide to Starting Your Blog & Online Biz Legally by Jackie Jade ($297.00)
  • Copyright Infringement Workbooks by Dana Bucy Miller ($40.00)
  • The Blogger’s Simple Guide to Taxes: A Guide to Saving Time and Money by Sarah Korhnak ($3.99)
Monetization
  • Affiliate Acceleration: Impactful Strategies To Increase Your Passive Income by Kayla Aimee ($27.00)
  • Become an Affiliate Blogger: Preparing You to Create a Full Time Income So You Can Work From Home! by Tia Mac ($47.00)
  • Closing Strong: Create Campaign Reports that WOW Your Clients by Danielle Liss ($49.00)
  • Core Affiliate Strategy Guide by Rosemarie Groner ($64.00)
  • How To Make Money From Blogging: The Ultimate Guide To Earning A Five Figure Income From Your Blog by Sharon Gourlay ($24.99)
  • Make Money Blogging at ANY Level by Victoria Pruett ($20.00)
  • Media Kit Smash: Increase Your Earning Potential with Professional Media Kit Using Canva by Melissa Culbertson ($87.00)
  • Passive Income Planner: Stop Trading Time for Money by Chantal Arnett ($19.00)
  • Small Blog, Big Income: Advanced Ninja Tricks for Profitable Blogging by Carol Tice ($3.99)
  • The Brand Magnet by Jeni Elliott ($59.00)
Podcasting
  • Start Your Podcast: From Idea to First Episode by Jacey Verdicchio ($39.00)
  • Turn Your Podcast Into Your Business by Joe Pardo ($197.00)
Productivity
  • Automation Education by Amber Temerity ($49.00)
  • Biz Boost Workbook by Tonia Kendrick ($29.00)
  • BlogWise: How to Do More with Less by Darren Rowse ($19.99)
  • Creative Biz Plan Workshop: Using Smart Strategies to Run Your Biz Without it Running You by Kayleigh Hannon ($47.00)
  • Don’t Eat That Frog! A Liberating Look at Time Management Strategies by Stacy Farrell ($14.95)
  • Inbox Hero: Learn to Conquer Your Inbox and Be More Productive Every Single Day by Désirée Fawn ($35.00)
  • Organize Your Entire Business Like a CEO by Laura Smith ($49.00)
  • Piece of Cake: 42 Simple Systems For Your Business by Melissa Smith ($29.00)
  • Productivity Freedom by Elizabeth Masarik ($47.00)
  • Spend Less Work Less by Loralee Hutton ($99.00)
Professional Blogging
  • ACTIVATE: EBA Live Conference Video Package by Ruth Soukup/Elite Blog Academy ($297.00)
  • Blogging to Win: Modern Blogging Strategies for the Busy Woman by Allison Lindstrom ($179.00)
  • Fall In Love with Blogging: From Passion to Plan to Profit by Dwainia Grey ($17.00)
  • Turn Your Dreams Into Money: How to Build a Six Figure Blog and Live the Life You Want by Emma Drew ($250.00)
Social Media
  • 10 Super Common Facebook Strategies That Do More Harm Than Good by Brittany Ann ($15.00)
  • Conquer YouTube by Kallie Branciforte ($375.00)
  • Crush It with Facebook Groups: The Ultimate Guide for Bloggers and Creative Entrepreneurs by Lindsey Aleson ($15.00)
  • Group Board Master: Unlock the Key to Massive Pinterest Growth! by Caroline Vencil ($97.00)
  • Instagram Unlocked: How to Gain Followers and Engagement that Lasts by Helene Sula ($57.00)
  • Own It: Amplify Your Influence & Build the Online Tribe of Your Dreams by Chakayla J. Taylor ($75.00)
  • Pageviews from Pinterest: The 7-Step System to Skyrocket Your Blog Traffic (& Income!) in the Next 30 Days by Krista Dickson ($197.00)
  • Pinterest Boost: How to Optimize and Automate your Pinterest Account using BoardBooster by MaryEllen Bream ($27.00)
  • Pinterest Group Boards Masterlist by Jenny Blaisdell ($10.00)
  • Pinteresting Strategies: How I Went from 0-200K Page Views with Manual Pinning by Carly Campbell ($32.00)
  • Social Media Strategies Course for Bloggers by Alea Milham ($99.00)
  • Twitter Strategy for Bloggers by Saira Perl ($44.00)
  • Two Minutes a Day to 10K Twitter Followers by Brett Romero ($47.00)
Bonuses
  • FREE 2-Month Subscription (any plan) to ConvertKit ($58.00)
    *new customers only
  • FREE 2500 Credits from Mouseflow ($29.00)
  • FREE 3-Month Thinkific Bundle (Offer Includes 3-month Business Package Trial, Training Courses, Launch Preparedness Review, and Free Migration Concierge Services) from Thinkific ($297.00)
  • FREE 2 Month Lunch -or- 3 Month Snack Plan from SaneBox ($25.00)
  • FREE 2 Month Standard Plan from LeadQuizzes ($67.00)
  • FREE Isabelle Theme from Bluchic ($79.00)
  • FREE 10 Stock Photos Bundle from Haute Chocolate ($69)


April 14, 2018

Everything you wanted to know about the Homemaking Bundle


So many of you have already invested in yourself and your home this week by picking up the year’s best collection of practical printables, online classes and easy-to-follow eBooks (I’m so excited for you!).
People raved about last year’s bundle and I personally think the 2018 version is even better!
I have absolutely loved everything in the 2017 Homemaking Bundle. I bought it thinking some of the information looked useful, plus I really wanted to try some of the bonuses. I can’t tell you how grateful I was to take a chance and buy this last year. It has helped me out so much! – Krists
But since this is a really unique concept and not everyone even really understands what a “bundle” is, I wanted to answer some of the great questions I’ve been asked about this bundle and how it all works.
Q1: Is this one big course? Or a bunch of different products?
A1: This bundle is a collection of 62 eBooks, 30 eCourses, videos & audios, 34 printables & workbooks, and 3 membership sites. Inside this bundle, you will find tons of resources with hundreds of recipes, chore printables, budget planners, and more. It’s basically all your favorite bloggers’ products together in one collection – all for $29.97.
Q2: What am I going to do with so many resources?
A2: There is no way on earth each of these eBooks / eCourses is relevant to where you are right now. Some of them will have a lot of appeal, and some won’t. But in most cases, it only takes 3 or 4 eBooks or eCourses that you’re going to use for you to start saving money. Not to mention, there are 30 resources alone that are worth as much or more than the cost of the bundle itself. So, even though you won’t use every resource in the bundle, it would still be really hard to not save a ton of money anyway.
Q3: How do I know I’m actually getting good quality products and not just a bunch of “throw-away” eBooks?
A3: The Ultimate Bundles team spends months reviewing potential contributors, approaches only the best for inclusion, and then only accepts the top products that they think will have the most appeal out of those. Many of these are even full-length eCourses with video tutorials or even access to a private Facebook group! They are highly selective and it shows.
Q4: OK, but what if I buy it and don’t like it?
A4: Although Ultimate Bundles has an extremely low return rate at less than 1/4 of the industry standard, there are some people who it doesn’t work for. That’s why they offer a 100% happiness guarantee refund policy. If you don’t love it, just email customerservice@ultimatebundles.com to ask for a full refund.
Q5: Can I just wait and purchase it some other time? Isn’t this “limited time only” just a sales gimmick?
A5: You’re right, sometimes that’s used as a sales gimmick. However, because of the unique nature of this sale (Ultimate Bundles does not have the perpetual right to sell the eBooks and eCourses in the bundle) and in order to honor their contracts with these product creators, the sale will truly end on Monday, April 16th. Occasionally, popular bundles are brought back for a 2-day flash sale, but it’s not guaranteed!
Q6: This sounds like a scam. Can you prove it’s not?
A6: I know it seems too good to be true. Pay $29.97 for $3680+ in resources? Doesn’t that mean someone’s losing big time? Or the prices are inflated?
I totally get your concerns. I’ve been an affiliate for Ultimate Bundles for years and I can tell you that I offer these bundles to my readers because they’re a great value. Even though they may be including their product in a bundle that costs less than their product, product creators get exposure to new potential readers, which can pay off in big ways later. And when you buy a bundle through your favorite blogger (hopefully me!), you’ll support them, too! Plus, the bundle is offered for such a short time that they can go back quickly to selling their product at full price.
In short, it’s a great deal for everyone. Ultimate Bundles is a reputable company, so if you try the bundle and don’t like it within 30 days, just ask their friendly, helpful customer happiness team for a refund.
I hope that fully answers your questions!!
In my opinion, you really don’t want to pass up a deal this good. But I’ll leave that up to you. Just don’t wait too long, because the sale is so short!

P.S. Seriously, don’t wait. Check out all the details here and let me know if you have any others questions that I didn’t answer: https://us154.isrefer.com/go/UhomB2018/a13178/

Get Organized and Get Your Life Back



Making a home is harder than it looks.
It’s not any one thing — the family members who lack toilet aim or the daily kitchen duties or the budget woes or the parenting what-am-I-doing moments or the basement flooding- no, it’s not any of those things in particular.
It’s ALL of it.
It’s the cumulative effect of juggling the different roles and responsibilities and
circumstances we face each day and trying desperately to give each of them our best.
We want to lead beautiful, joyful, meaningful lives. We want our homes to feel organized, functional and inviting. We want to raise our families lovingly and intentionally. We want to invest in ourselves and continually grow as people.
All of these things are good. But that doesn’t make them easy.
The reality is, we can all use a little help along the way, from women who have strengths in
areas where we struggle, or who are a little further down the road than we are.
What if you could learn organizing and decluttering methods to keep your household
running smoothly most of the time?
What if you could find strategies for balancing all the roles you need to fill – without going
crazy and without compromising what’s most important to you?
What if you had meal planning help, and could serve your family quick & healthy meals ?
What if you found ideas to improve your relationships – your faith, your marriage, and your parenting?
And what if you could find the support you need to create an intentional home and life – one that falls in line with your values and dreams?
Well, you can. 🙂
I’m so excited to tell you about the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle , a digital library of resources and tools to help you in all these areas and more!

It includes products like eBooks, online courses, printables and planners, audio files, membership sites and more, crammed into one unbelievable collection, for a ridiculously low price. Ultimate Bundles creates a lot of different bundles, but this particular one has been running for 6 years (with brand new products each year!), it’s their most popular bundle EVER and over 100,000 women have picked one up since 2013.
I love working with this family-run company because they care so much about the value and quality of each bundle and their customer service is amazing.
This year’s edition is the biggest and most valuable yet! It includes 62 ebooks, 30 videos, audios, & eCourses, 34 printables & workbooks, 2 videos, and 3 membership sites.
There’s only one catch: It’s available for just six days only .
That’s how they convince all these amazing bloggers and product creators to include their
products for so little!
For way less than the cost of an “oops” Target shopping trip, you’ll get a complete library to help you:
  • Achieve better balance and manage your schedule more efficiently
  • Declutter your home (and actually keep it that way!)
  • Create 100 frugal recipes with a pantry of just 26 ingredients
  • Conquer screen-time battles, and help kids learn coping strategies for stress, anxiety
    & anger
  • Print out gorgeous planners so you can stay organized in style
  • Rekindle the romance with a plan for everyday passion in your marriage
  • Refresh your wardrobe with 64 days of mix-and-match outfit ideas for every season of the year
  • and so much more!
Plus, it comes with over $180 worth of bonus offers from companies you’ll love (this is one of my favorite parts).
Besides being packed with so much great stuff, one of the things I like best about the bundle is the price .
By offering it for a short time only, they’re able to give you access to over 129 digital products worth $3,680 — for just $29.97 ! (Nope, I’m not kidding. Can you believe it?)

Here’s how it works:
  1. Visit their website, take a quick look at all the goodness that comes in this package, then click the “Get my copy now!” button to go through their simple and secure 3-step checkout process.
  2. You’ll receive an email with a login to their online access portal, where you’ll begin downloading your eBooks, signing up for your eCourses, and redeeming your free bonus offers.
  3. Use their Getting Started Guide to pick the topic you want to tackle first and start your stress-less homemaking journey!
The most important detail, though, is this bundle is available for just six days! After
Monday night, April 16th, the sale ends and you’d have to buy all of these products individually
.
I’d hate for you to miss out, so click HERE https://us154.isrefer.com/go/UHomB2018/a13178/ to learn more or buy the bundle.
It’s even backed by a 100% happiness guarantee , so you can make sure it’s right for you. Creating a home and life you love is not out of reach.
Learn more or get your bundle HERE https://us154.isrefer.com/go/UHomB2018/a13178/
(Psst… the bundle goes away at 11:59 pm Eastern on Monday, April 16th, so don’t wait!)

Why I used to be a hot mess and how I changed that



A few years ago, when I started growing my family, my house constantly felt dirty, crusty, and cluttered. I never invited any friends over because I was so embarrassed at the mounds of laundry covering the couches and dirty dishes constantly overflowing the sink.
When I had a free moment to myself, cleaning up the house so I could have friends over was the last thing I wanted to do. I felt really lonely.
But finally I started to make small progress. I learned a secret that kept my laundry under control (and off the couch!). I figured out how to simplify meal times to cut down on dishes, and I learned how to spot the clutter zones in my house (and how to get rid of them).
I throw open the door when friends stop by unannounced now. It’s not that my home is ever spotless, but it’s comfortable and I always have a clean coffee mug and a free couch cushion for a friend. 😉
But I haven’t forgotten how desperate and lonely I felt back then…
If you’ve felt that way too, I am SO excited to tell you about something that has so many tips and ideas to create a warm, welcoming home (plus help you balance everything you’ve got going on).
In particular, it includes a ton of resources for decluttering and getting your home in order, keeping on top of cleaning more easily, frugal ideas for bringing more beauty to your home, and all sorts of simple strategies for being guest-ready and taking the anxiety out of hospitality. 
It’s called the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle.
With 129 eBooks, eCourses, printables, videos, workbooks, and more, you’ll be able to find a ton of resources that apply to your life right now.
Plus, it’s like your own personal library on all topics home, family, kitchen, organizing, self-care, parenting and so much more, that you can reach for again and again.
Truthfully, it’s the resource I wish I would have had years ago. (And at a 98% discount, it’s super affordable for anyone!)


P.S. This bundle sale is over on April 16th at midnight. It’s just a super short sale (hence the discounted price) so don’t miss it! https://us154.isrefer.com/go/UhomB2018/a13178/

April 6, 2018

A Guide to Effective Parenting: How To Raise Your Kids to Be Responsible


I am back from my sabbatical, everyone. Sorry I was gone for so long. With spring break and Easter, March was very busy for me as I am sure it was for you.

I want to get started on a weekly course over the next few weeks. I came across a book that I would highly recommend to any parent. Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) by Foster Cline, MD and Jim Fay.


Let's get down to it. The tips from here on out will work MOST of the time. Making good choices HAS to be LEARNED, just like anything else. There is no 100% effective way to parent. But I am here to tell you, this helps.

Our world is filled with kids that can't figure out right from wrong, or they feel like they can't do things for themselves. It is up to us, as their parents to teach them how to do things and know the difference.

When you were a kid, did you ever tell yourself or your friends that when you have your own kids, you will never raise them and discipline them the same way you were growing up?

I sure did. Here is a newsflash for most of you though. Whether we like it or not,  we tend to raise our kids how we were raised.

There are several types of parents out there. I am sure your parents were one of them.

1. The Helicopter Parent 

       This is the parent that protects their child from E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. They hover over their child. They rescue them whenever trouble arises. They protect them from every growing experience that the child needs.

       Children raised this way struggle later on in adulthood while trying to figure everything out. They don't know how to handle the challenges of life. They will learn the hard way that they can't bail out of trouble or responsibilities. How will they handle getting a traffic ticket, missing overdue bills, getting fired at work, taxes? No one will be there to bail them out. What happens then?


2. The Turbo-Attack Helicopter Parent

      These parents strive to show their kids a perfect world. One in which their child doesn't have to face disappointment, inconvenience, struggle, or feel discomfort. These kids look good on paper: high grades, awards, honors, etc. Parents want their kids to have every advantage, things are swept under the rug. 

    In the end, character and attitude are what is important. Not what is on their transcripts. Kids gain this character through overcoming struggles and learning through them. Not by being protected.

3. Drill Sergeant Parent

      These parents believe in controlling everything their children do. There is only one way to fold a towel. Is there really?  They believe kids need to be disciplined and told what to do. When they speak to their kids, words are full of I told you so or put-downs. 
      
      Kids suffer because they don't know how to think for themselves. They eventually rebel because they don't want to hear their parents voice in their heads making decisions for them. They have been ordered around and have become dependent on the parents. When the kids were younger and the pressure from peers was not so heavy, they never got to learn how to make the decision for themselves. These kids tend to be followers, again, because they can't think for themselves.

Finally, we have....

4. The Laissez-Faire Parent

        This type of parent could be unsure of how to handle their kids, or they have become confused by all the "advice" on parenting. So, they decide to let their kids raise themselves. They sit back and let kids dictate. They want to be their child's best friend and that it's important to preserve that relationship.

        This is a cop-out or misunderstanding of our parental responsibilities.


I am ashamed to say I have been all of these types of parents. I was raised as an army brat, so of course, I was raised by at least one drill sergeant parent. I want, like all parents, the best for my kids. So, I am a helicopter parent. And then, there are days that I give up and just don't care because everything I do just isn't working. The Laissez-Faire parent, I am. 



Here is the answer you came here to get.

The most effective type of parenting is....

The Consulting Parent

         This is the parent that asks questions and gives choices. They establish options while hanging onto the boundaries. This kind of parenting is the goal. I have used it for two weeks now and even my 2-year-old is making better decisions. We must maintain those boundaries in order to help our kids understand that they are responsible for those decisions and that there are consequences. Ask them "What could you have done instead?" Instead of saying "Why did you do that? What were you thinking?" If they won't sit at the table and eat dinner, "Well, I can take your plate and we can get ready for bed now or you can eat at the table and talk with us about your day." If they won't clean their room, "Would you like to clean your room or sell a toy to hire me to clean it."
      
        More than likely, they will clean instead of losing a toy. If they choose to sell a toy, then they can choose the toy or opt for you to choose the toy. If they are older and want to borrow money, make them set something up with you for collateral (ex. game console, tv, stereo, headphones, etc.).

        When they are struggling with something, don't just take it and do it for them. Ask "Are you having a hard time? Would you like me to show you how to do it this time so you can do it on your own next time?" This works when they want to make their own PB&J sandwich, peel an orange, build something from Legos, or most other instances. 

         Kids like to do things by themselves, but they don't always know how to go about it. They like feeling independent so they can tell you, "Look, mom, look what I did." We need to give them the tools and knowledge to do this.

         We are trying to set up instances where they can be responsible and take ownership of their behaviors. When kids get older, they will already know how to make decisions on their own instead of being a follower like a drill sergeant kid or know how to take rejection, unlike the helicopter kids.


Do not argue with them. This is key. Here are some one-liners that you can use:

1. "I love you too much to argue."
2. "I know."
3. "What did I say?"
4. "I argue at 6:00 AM on Saturdays."
5. "Aren't you glad that I don't believe that?"

Check out the article on "Going Brain Dead": http://goo.gle/pteXkh

Now, I will tell you that it is difficult trying to change our ways. I have had a few fallbacks during my two weeks. It takes patience and work.  Give kids the opportunity to fail, so next time, they can succeed and learn from their mistakes. If we do everything for them, they will never learn how to be independent thinkers and doers. They will always be looking for a bailout or someone to tell them what to do. What happens when it is time to send them out into the world alone? I, for one, want my kid to be able to figure out how to succeed in life. Start their own business. Buy their own vehicle. Fix the kinks in that vehicle. Change the tire. I definitely don't want to be called, "Mom, I got a ticket today. Can you pay it for me?" Not when they are 25 or 30 years old, for sure. 

Most of the stuff I am doing with this now, I have done in the past. But I have moved, had more kids, gotten busy, and forgotten. I started getting overwhelmed and someone told me about this book. I feel like I am getting back on track with my life and my kids. 

Patience is key during this. Yes, it takes longer to get your kids to make the decision or do the task, but I don't want them to grow up and be reliant on me. They will get further and be happier when they learn to do things for themselves. They will feel proud of themselves when they finally achieve the goals they set before themselves. 

Let me know how you feel about this topic. Are you all for it or not at all interested? We, as parents, forget the importance of our roles in our kids' lives. It is our job to raise them into respectable and responsible adults.

Resources:
www.planetaenvivo.com
Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) by Foster Cline, MD and Jim Fay.

April 5, 2018

How To Spend Quality Time With Your Partner When You Have Small Kids



As a couple it is important to spend time together. Quality time spent together is what fosters feelings of love can and without it the relationship will inevitably begin to fade. With the demands that small children put onto relationships it becomes increasingly hard for a couple to make time to spend together.

You can find time for your partner when you have small kids despite how busy you may be. Don’t get caught up in your day-to-day activities and forget about loving your partner. Read on for ways to spend quality time with the one that you love.

Go To The Gym Together 

 It is usually hard to find time for people to go to the gym. That’s why it’s a great couples activity. You get to cross something off of your to do list as well as spend time with your partner. Take laps around the pool together, go for a walk on the indoor track, or even spot each other while you lift weights.

 The most important thing is that you are getting fit together and holding each other accountable. The great thing about gyms is that they usually have childcare for the little ones in your life so you don’t have to worry about watching your kids and can focus on your work out together.

Couples Game Night 

 It’s probably very likely that you want to spend time with your friends as well as your partner. Invite your favorite couple over to have a day of BBQing and games outside in your backyard. Having kids near a BBQ can be dangerous so ensure you gas grill safety!

 Spend the day BBQing and eating with your family, kids included, but once it's nighttime put the kids to bed and have a game night with your friends. You can play some adult friendly games like cards against humanity or a regular fun game like taboo. Don’t forget the wine for some extra fun.

Family Friendly Vacation 

Going on vacation strictly as a couple may not be realistic for every family; maybe they have no one to watch the kids for the extended stay so they opt to bring the kids instead. If you can’t find a sitter or simply don’t trust anyone to watch your children make sure you do your research before booking anything. You want to find resorts or cruises that offer childcare or kids fun place that way you can get some alone time in and don’t have to compromise time with your children.


Communicate When Apart 

Quality time isn’t just about the time you physically spend with each other and its okay of you can’t be with your partner for a lot of the day. When you are apart is just as important as if you were together. Call your spouse on your lunch break and keep it light hearted, don’t just call to complain about your boss, make it about your partner. You could discuss the specifics of a trip you want to take or a new restaurant you saw that opened up around the corner.

 If you can’t call send a text message or email letting your partner know you are thinking of them. This will go a long way and make your partner's day because everyone wants to feel like others are thinking about him or her.



 Take the time to spend with your partner they will in turn feel supported and secure in the fact that you love them because you are constantly proving it to them. Of course there are other things that can wrong in a relationship but be sure not to forget to do the things and spend the time just as you did when you first became a couple or before the kids came along.

Creator of this post:

 Brittnay is an Australian who lived in London for the past two years. She managed to squeeze in 21 trips to Europe & Africa in that time . She passionate about travel, health and nutrition, you will find her healthy and delicious recipes on The Nut Butter Hub.

March 9, 2018

Why Does Your Child Need Chores and How To Get Them To Do Chores Without Complaining



Do your kids sit around the house all day while you are slaving away for endless hours? Are they spending too much time on technology (i.e. computers, tablets, phones, and yes! even television) while you are marching around trying to clean up after them? If so, you have come to the right place.

I started taking notice of this a few weeks ago with my own kids. I had become a lazy parent for some time. I didn't like arguing with them to get things done, so I just did it myself. Little did I know, I was actually hindering my kids.

I didn't think that they were ready to take on such tasks. I mean, come on, my daughter is 7 now and she doesn't know how to clean up after herself. I still have to go behind her and brush her teeth when she is done. She is very capable of doing things on her own now, but she is my baby.

This was my mindset. I hate cleaning but I realized I did chores at their age, too. I never thought of brushing my teeth and putting my clothes in the hamper were chores, though. I thought they were just essential life skills.

At the age of two, I think that if a child can make a mess, they can clean it up, too. They know where that toy came from, they can put it right back where they got it. They know how to clean up a spill if they drop their cup, I just have to hand them the towel.

My kids walked all over me while I just slaved away trying to get stuff done, only to get to bedtime and realize I didn't get anything done. As hard as it was on me, I had to realize they were my helpers.



My kids love helping me sweep, fold laundry, and even wipe the table after eating. They see it as a game. But either way, the chore is done. Granted, they know they get points if they do all their chores.

I know it is hard to come to the realization that your kids NEED chores and they SHOULD be helping you do them. I didn't want to make my babies do chores, either.


Let's talk about why our kids need chores... 


1. Chores erase entitlement
Yes, we want to give our little angels everything under the stars. What happens, though, when they become adults? Do we keep them home and do everything for them? Should they expect us to? No. Hard work can go a long way.
I learned how to change a flat tire over the phone when I was 16/17 years old, still in high school, from my dad. Did I whine about wanting him to take off work and lose money to come help me? No, I did not. I was proud to learn how to do this task. There were even some boys from school trying to help me and they couldn't figure it out. I did it! All by myself! And I was proud of myself for what I had achieved.
Let your kids be proud of themselves for reaching goals and accomplishing tasks by themselves. Don't make them feel like it needs to be handed to them or done for them when they are 25 and can't figure out how to make chocolate milk. I knew how to change the oil, a battery, a flat. I knew how to build a house, the names of almost all of the tools (instead of being like a DR. SEUSS book, "hand me that whatchamahoojit"). Kids want to learn and feel accomplished when they know how to do it.

2. Kids learn empathy, especially when they help the family. They learn that helping is rewarding.
As stated above, helping people and knowing/achieving things makes a person feel good inside. They go hand in hand. If they can change a tire, and see someone sitting at the gas station with no one to help them, they feel good knowing they helped that person as well as knowing they can do that task. Rewards don't have to be physical. Learning that when they help mommy with chores lets mommy spend more time with them, it makes them happy.

3. Children learn responsibility and how to accept it.
It teaches our babies how to own up to things they have done. "Mommy, I spilled my drink. Can I have a towel to clean it up?" Or if they are just learning, "Uh-oh, you made a mess. Should we get the towel and clean it up?" This states what they did so they can take responsibility instead of blaming someone else, and that we should clean it up either together or let them do it alone. Helping them at first gets them on the track of doing it by themselves the next time. "Oh my, your room is a mess. Should we clean it up so we can play in here instead of the living room?" Help them remember where the items go, show them so they can do it next time. Teach them that they are responsible for the mess and it's time to clean up now.

4. Chores are essential to learning and developing basic life skills that are needed to survive outside mom and dads home later in life.
They are going to live on their own one day. We can't keep them little forever. As much as we want to. We need to teach them that cleaning is healthy and being organized will help them in their own house one day. We don't want to visit our kids and realize that they don't know how to wash dishes or they can't make a meal to serve guests. We don't want to get a call saying they are stranded because they couldn't change their tire and we have to drive five hours to help them. I don't like depending on people, that was how I was raised. I like things done a certain way, and I like to know I can do it on my own. Our kids need to know how to clean, make a bed, wash their clothes, sweep and mop, brush their teeth, wipe and flush, and so much more. Let them learn while they are young, and then when they are older, like me, they won't see these things as chores. Honestly, they aren't. They are life skills. I learned how to sew my pants when they got holes when I was 12. I taught myself. Sewing is a life skill.

5. Chores can teach a good work ethic.
This goes hand in hand with #1. You want your kids to be hard workers so they can get that job. You don't want them walking around asking for hand-outs.
My husband had a fresh co-worker, who was upset one day. Why? Because she was working there for a week maybe two, and hadn't gotten a promotion yet. Seriously? I don't want my kid to think like that. You have to work hard to get what you want. You don't just show up and expect someone to put money in your hand. This is why we teach them through chores.

Children are helpers. They love to help us do things like washing the dog, wiping down the table, putting dishes in the dishwasher. They don't see it as chores right now. They see it as helping mommy or daddy. Let them help you and one day they will do it by themselves.

*Update: 

My 2 year old decided, after breakfast this morning (3/9/2018), that she wanted to wipe the table like her big sisters. She went and got the sponge and begged me to let her do it.

Sometimes, if they see their older siblings helping, they will want to also. They always follow them around anyway. They learn more from the older ones then they do from you through play and watching. Use that! Example: "Look what big brother is doing. Do you want to try?"


But I have tried to get them to do chores and they just fight me on it.


There are ways to get around this. I know you may want to give up after a few times of endless fights and arguments. I sure did. But I found a way that worked. So can you!


Here are a few ways that might help you get started...

You can start with one chore at a time at first and then introduce more once they get that one down. Slowly, get them used to having more responsibilities in the house.

You can introduce a point system like buttons in a jar.  I started using the app, Chore Monster which works with another app, Mothership. What is that? It is an app that lets me list chores for certain days of the week or every day for each kid. I can also choose rewards. Each time they do a chore, they get points. When they get to check off their chore, a little monster comes on and cheers while jumping up and down shouting "YAY!" Each reward is a certain amount of points. Examples are Game Night-75 points, Movie Night-50 points, Getting Ice Cream-100 points, Get A Toy-500 points. You can change it up all you want. You are in control on Mothership. You can do this with the buttons in a jar, too. You just have to stick to it.

You can use a sticker chart. Once they get a certain amount of sticker they get a prize. Toddlers are happy with just a piece of candy.

If your kids are older and always asking for toys and you want to teach them why they can't always get them, try introducing allowance to teach them how to use money wisely and why they have to work for what they want. Just like you do.

I wrote more about rewards and how to get your kids started on chores and a free Chores By Age Reference Guide. 


Kids need chores! It is essential to their growing up. It is our responsibility to help them grow up and learn these life skills!

I would love to hear your take on how you get your kids to do chores or help out around the house. Or how you feel about kids doing chores. Please feel free to drop a comment below or sign up for my email list and we can chat!

March 5, 2018

Mask Beneath Her Face by Rafael Chandler




Publication Date: October 14, 2017
Genre: Horror/ Thriller
Blurb:
During the 1980s, slashers terrorized America. With
machetes and masks, these unstoppable killers
stalked college campuses, quiet suburbs, and
lakeside cabins.

Thirty years ago, Bobbi Metzger survived a massacre
at her 16th birthday party. She spent decades
putting her life back together.

Tonight, Bobbi will face a new killer: a high-tech
slasher hell-bent on opening the doorway to an
abyss of unimaginable horror.

How long can Bobbi survive this nightmare? What
will she do to protect the people she loves? How
much blood is she willing to spill?

Excerpt


Bobbi Metzger wrenched the hatchet from her boyfriend's skull. In a few minutes, Bobbi thought, I will kill her,
or she will kill me. Either way, this is going to be over soon.
She lurched across the room. Blood-soaked carpet squished under her feet. Red droplets slid down and dripped from
the handmade banner over the doorway: Happy Birthday, Bobbi!
July 1st, 1987, was supposed to be the greatest night of her life. With their parents out of town, Bobbi and her sister
had invited everybody to the lake house, and they'd more or less trashed the place.
Bobbi stepped over a dead body: a girl in acid-washed jeans and a Noid t-shirt. Bobbi didn't recognize her. One of
Megan's friends.
The TV was still on. There was a video on MTV, some new band called Guns N' Roses. Bobbi's sister, Megan, had
switched loyalty from Def Leppard to these guys, because she thought their singer was hot. "I'd feel his serpentine,
anytime."
"Those guys are all gross," Bobbi had said. "Rob Lowe's cute, though."
Megan had pretended to gag.
Thick drops of blood dotted the red icing on Bobbi's cake. A birthday card was propped up next to the cake, and the
message was scrawled in Megan's loopy handwriting: POP THAT CHERRY, BOBBI!
If Bobbi turned her head just a little bit, she would see Megan pinned to the wall with a fireplace poker through her
mouth, blood dripping from the band of her polka-dotted Swatch. Bobbi didn't look. She took another tentative step.
You can do it. You have to. If you don't, you're dead, like everyone else. No choice.
She stepped around the table in the middle of the room.
Heart pounding, Bobbi peeked into the kitchen. Nothing. She looked behind her.
On the couch, Bobbi's boyfriend Kevin stared at her blankly, the hatchet wound like a vertical grin in his forehead.
He wore a CONTRA t-shirt. Kevin spent most of his money down at Galaxy, the arcade at the mall, plugging quarters
into games like Contra and Rastan.
Last night, Kevin had tried to protect Bobbi, throwing himself at the woman in black; but she had plucked the
hatchet from his hand and buried it in his skull, so quickly that Bobbi wasn't sure it had happened at all.
Then the killer had grinned at Bobbi while Kevin slumped backwards onto the couch, the axe handle sticking out of
his skull. Bobbi tried to scream, but couldn't make a sound.
Seven hours later, she was still trying to scream.
She caught a glimpse of herself in hallway mirror; she'd aged thirty years in a single night. The side of her face was
swollen and sunrise-hued, crusted with dark blood.
Suddenly dizzy from pain and blood loss, she stumbled into the kitchen and banged her shin on a keg of beer. She
froze, eyes wide. The killer heard that. She's going to grab me and rip my face off. Hell, she's probably right behind
me. Bobbi turned to look. Nothing.
Carefully stepping around the keg, Bobbi tiptoed into the kitchen. Lipstick-stained cigarette butts spilled out of
ashtrays; empty cans of Coors Light huddled around the sink. Hell of a party, Bobbi thought.
Last night, Bobbi had very nearly taken her first sip of beer, and had (more or less) made up her mind to lose her
virginity to Kevin before the sun came up.
But around midnight, someone had emerged from the woods, right in the middle of Bobbi's sweet-sixteen festivities.
A woman in dark rags, clutching rusty knives, muttering nonsensical words.
A killer.

Hands trembling, Bobbi eased the kitchen drawer open. She paused, listening intently. Nothing. She sniffed the air.
Nothing.
Okay, make it quick. And quiet.
She pocketed a couple of lighters and a book of matches, then snuck out the door, onto the porch. The sun was
coming up.
Her face throbbed where the killer had tried to cut her face off. She had sliced Bobbi from ear to jaw; Bobbi
squirmed free and bolted for the woods.
She thought about running. Then Katie Harper ran past her, into the woods, still naked from skinny-dipping, her
hands covered in blood and her mouth open impossibly wide in a keening wail, and then Katie must have stumbled into
some kind of trap, because a massive wooden spike jabbed straight up out of a pile of leaves and went straight through
Katie's torso, impaling her in mid-stride, and she twitched silently for a few minutes as she hung there.
So Bobbi didn't run.
The police car was still parked in front of the lake house, doors wide open. Someone must have called 911 before
the phone line got cut. Crouching behind their car, the cops had opened fire on the killer, and in return, she had
scattered bits of them all over the lawn.
Bobbi stepped over a cop's leg. Sunlight glinted on ripples in the lake, but there was no movement on the shore. Just
mangled skinny-dippers.
Could get into the police car, maybe grab the radio, and push some buttons. Tell the other police to come quickly.
But no. She'd die waiting for the cops. And if she escaped this alive, she'd never sleep again. She'd go insane
waiting for the killer to find her.
She won't just let me go. I saw her face.
And she wants me dead.
Sunlight glinted off a cops watch; the cops arm, which lay next to an empty bottle of bourbon, had been hacked off
just above the elbow.
From the ragged stump, a drop of blood floated up, like a dandelion seed. Bobbi stared, bewildered. Other drops
beaded up on the torn flesh and cracked bone, and they drifted up into the air, weightless.
Bobbi shook her head. Was she hallucinating? Same thing happened last night, she thought, just before the killer
grabbed me. When she's near, blood floats like we're in outer space. Or maybe I've lost my mind.
Faster now, Bobbi staggered down the gravel path. It veered off the driveway, then split, one end curving over lush
grass to the boathouse, and the other sloping down to the lake. She trudged to shore, then gently stepped onto the
fishing pier.
Nothing on the shore behind her, no movement in the woods, nothing in the windows of the house. Maybe she's
gone. But no, the killer wasn't going to give up, sunlight be damned. She would follow Bobbi.

She had to follow Bobbi, in order for this plan to work...

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If you love 80’s slasher flicks like Friday the 13 th or Sleepaway Camp, this book’s for you!
Warning: This book contains extreme gore and violence. Not for the faint of heart!

About the Author


Rafael Chandler writes novels (Hexcommunicated, The Astounding Antagonists), video games (SOCOM
4, Rainbow Six: Lockdown, MAG), and tabletop role-playing games (Teratic Tome, Lusus Naturae). He is a
metalhead, a kaijuphile, and a gorehound.

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